How to Help Aging Parents and Grandparents: First Steps
As a population, we're aging—and quickly, too. Data from a United Nations report predicted that by 2050, the number of people over the age of 65 will have grown to 16% of the total population, marking a significant increase from the 9% recorded in 2019. Between this trend and the significant increase in average life expectancy (from 66.8 years in 2000 to 73.4 years in 2019), many people are finding themselves grappling with the difficult question of how to help aging parents and grandparents.
While every individual and family are different and will have a unique set of needs, there are a few best practices to keep in mind as you navigate the process of figuring out how to best help your elderly parent or grandparent:
Stay in Touch. Regularly communicating with and checking in on your aging parent or grandparent is arguably the most important step in helping them. Not only will they appreciate hearing from or seeing you, but keeping regular tabs on them will mean that if a problem does arise for them, you're likely to notice it sooner than you might otherwise, even if they don't notice it themselves. Further, maintaining your relationship with your parent or grandparent could also make them more amenable to your suggestions about lifestyle changes or seeking help.
Evaluate Their Needs. Conduct a thorough evaluation of what needs your parent or grandparent has, and whether those needs are being met. Depending on the situation, you might choose to involve them in this process, or you might discuss the matter separately with siblings or other family members. Your evaluation should take into account all the facets of your elderly loved one's life, such as their health and any medical needs, their ability to take care of themselves at home, and their mobility and social lives. Make lists of the ways in which they are doing well and the areas where a change is needed.
Since your loved one's needs and life situation will likely evolve over time, it may be helpful to revisit this evaluation process periodically to assess any new needs.
Make a Plan. Using the list you developed in the last stage, start looking for potential solutions to the shortcomings in your parent's or grandparent's life. If their needs are fairly minor—say, they occasionally need help with bigger chores around the house, or could benefit from being driven to doctors' appointments—you may choose to address them with the help of family members or a support system. On the other hand, if they are no longer capable of living independently on their own, it may be time to consider other living options or sources of help.
Whatever your loved one's needs are, there's a good chance that PACE of Southwest Michigan can help. PACE's innovative philosophy focuses on providing care to seniors in their own homes and communities, thereby allowing them to maintain their comfort, independence, and dignity. PACE takes a holistic, all-inclusive approach to care that combines interdisciplinary healthcare, social support, spiritual care, and more. If you or someone you know is struggling to have their care needs met, check your eligibility or contact us to explore your options.